How are you?
We all ask and hear that phrase so often and I guess many of us still say things like “fine” or “yes, good” or “as well as can be expected” or “OK thanks, how are you?, even when we are having one of those days when it feels like everything is falling apart.. Its such a standard question with lots of standard responses which we have subconsciously stacked up over the years and repeat habitually with little or no thought. We have been made aware of the fact that sharing how we really are and acknowledging our struggles and vulnerabilities are key to sound mental health and we are making great progress. Last week we saw Mens Mental Health Awareness Week part of a whole range of Mental Health Awareness raising and its so important we keep on with this. However, there is still so much more to do and in my experience, those in leadership positions can still struggle to take care of themselves as well as others, so, today I want to talk about leadership “when it all gets too much” and how you can cope as a leader and still maintain your mental, physical and emotional health.
Conversations with a number of my coachees and groups this week seem to have thrown out a common theme of leaders realising that remobilising their people is going to be far more complicated than the original lockdown. The phrases I have heard this week include:-
“So frustrated”, “I’m all over the place”, “huge mountain to climb and so much to factor in”, “people are really emotional”, “some people taking such a narrow view”’ “no accountability, no decisions, so much uncertainty and it feels chaotic” and “it’s all getting a bit much”.
I know that for most of you even to say “its all getting a bit much” is hard, because you feel you are supposed to lead by coping and dealing with the situation, so I want to say, its ok to feel this, its ok to be vulnerable, its ok to struggle – this does not make you a poor leader, in fact the opposite. You are human and its holding onto your humanity that will make you an even better leader. We need to be develop the resilience to deal with extreme circumstances and to do that we need to be ok with the struggle.
Here are some other tips which I have used and worked on with my coachees to help build and foster your resilience at this time
These are some very simple and accessible tips to help you and I will be talking more about resilience in future blogs and providing more resources including our free facebook group, (watch out for your invitation to join), to help you all to develop your resilience and take care of yourself, so you can thrive in your leadership role and be confident you are leading at your best during this shift we are experiencing.
Take very good care of yourselves and I hope this is helpful
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